Dear Child of God,
God welcomes us with loving arms ‒ unbiased and ready to love on His children. Eager to show His mercies and grace in our lives. Saturating us with the love we deserve and were created from and died for.
Being human, I often find myself looking for this love outside of the realms of God. I sometimes get this expectation and entitlement that others will or should love me like this. I look for this in my husband, my kids and my friends.
Why can’t they just love me?
Why can’t I always feel that they love me?
If they really love me, I should always feel that they love me.
Because I don’t feel it all the time, they must not love me enough.
Why can’t they give me all that I need to fill me and sustain me? Serving me outward expressions of the inward love they feel for me. I want to hear from them 24/7 that I am good enough, I am mother enough, I am wife enough, I am friend enough. Enough.
Sounds like I’m a pretty needy women right? (insert eye roll emoji)
Have you ever felt this way?
I have to be reminded that the people in my life circle are sinners in need of the love of Jesus just like myself and will not be enough to fill me. They’re only humans. We were not made to FULLY look to others to self-sustain ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. If that were the case, we wouldn’t feel the need for a relationship with God. We are told in the Bible to seek what we are thirsty for in Christ.
“Whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” John 4:14
The tribe of people in my life are wonderful, loving, encourages to me. This is not a dig at them for not giving my needy self-enough. They are incredible and I am well-loved and cherished and I know that.
What I am saying is, when I have that incredibleness in my life, why do I sometime feel broken and unloved and not enough?
I have to shift my focus on the real issue here.
The issue is that the enemy knows my insecurities and pounces at the chance to use them to cripple me. 1 Peter 5:8 says “Be alert and sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” I notice this more as I am drawing closer to Christ in my relationship with Him and being obedient to the calling and responsibility He has gifted me in life.
But why still do I fall into the enemies trap and choose to allow the lies of the enemy to break me down and steal my joy?
Why do I keep the door open for the enemy to come in my heart and allow feelings of discontentment and unworthiness enter into my mind?
Why do I stumble and allow him to have full reign over my body, mind and spirit and have me convinced that I am not enough?
As we are maturing as Christian women and walking closer with God, the enemy will pull out all his tricks to make you lose sight of your lighted path.
But be encouraged! Christ knew this before you were even born. He has called it out in His big book of truth!
“Indeed, all who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted. But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled.” 2 Timothy 3:12 & 14
Stand firm on the truths of God and stomp out the lies of the enemy. Tell him who you are. Make him run with his tail between his legs and have him so annoyed that he doesn’t stand a chance with this God girl!
I am enough.
Who am I? I am a daughter of the King ‒ an heir to the kingdom of the most high. A woman who will not be shaken by this world. I am a warrior princess, a deliverer of God’s word, and a vessel of his love.
I am a wife who deeply loves, respects and uplifts her husband.
I am a mother who is training up her children to have a natural, instinctual relationship with Christ.
I am a friend whom her tribe can rely on and seek wisdom and encouragement from….and to always be up for a good laugh and a cup of coffee.
I also acknowledge that I am broken, in need of my Savior daily. Honestly, I don’t always hit the mark and get it right because I am human. I am one big ‘ol hot mess of imperfect progress.
But what I can get right is spotting the lies of the enemy and slamming the door in his face because those lies have no place in my world! Buh-bye!
I don’t know about you, but knowing that I don’t need to fully rely on my feelings of being
enough brings me this overabundance of joy and peace. Now when I am feeling that I’m not enough, I quickly become aware that this is an attack ‒ a tactic of the enemy to belittle me and rob me of the joy and love for myself and others.
The Bible tells us in Romans 8:39 that “Neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” You are loved. You are so loved! He is right there with you, in the midst of your storms and you are enough for Christ. He created you in His own image and knows exactly what He’s doing. Invite Him in to your world to walk in front of you, behind you and by the hand with you.
A woman who is enough
Heather and her husband live in Smithsburg MD. They attend Lifehouse church and are active at the local YMCA. Heather is a photographer, coffee lover and fitness momma with 3 babies. She is thankful to be a stay at home Mom and is passionate about women’s ministry and the opportunities and gifts God has placed in her life and on her heart.