We live in a high-pressure world. Instagram selfies, Snapchat filters, photo shop – voices from every direction are telling us that we need to look a certain way or have a certain level of education, job, marriage, a certain type of parent or have so much money to have any sort of value. I can say with 100% confidence that no matter who you are or what stage of life you are in that every single woman alive falls subject to this battle. The thing is, if you don’t recognize your intrinsic value given to you by your Creator without these things, you sure as heck won’t with them.
We also need to keep in mind that we only see what others put out for us to see. We have no concept of the whole picture. We don’t see that the happy couple in the picture just had an epic fight. We don’ t see that the skinny girl with the thigh gap has battled an eating disorder and just wants to be free. We don’t see that woman got fired 4 times before she got her “dream job”. We don’t see that mom was just locked in the bathroom crying hysterically. We don’t see behind the selfie to the girl who had a horrible home life and just needs some affirmation from somewhere. We can’t make assumptions and compare our lives to everyone else’s “highlight reel”. Continue reading “the comparison trap”
My nana’s name was Mary Elizabeth Kelley but she preferred to be called Betty. She was a single mother of three children. She had 2 boys (who were only 1 year apart from each other) and a little girl.
She was not a single mother by choice. My grandfather had passed away from health issues created by the war just 6 weeks before my mom was due to be born in 1952. This put my nana into the hardest point of her life. She was to raise 3 children all by herself and on one income. Continue reading “treasures of the heart”
Throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.
There are several times throughout the year when it feels like a natural clean slate. Of course January 1st. Also, for some is the day after the Super Bowl. For me, the one that seems so natural and so necessary is Easter. Continue reading “a new start”
I would like to share a story with you. It is told by Ann Voskamp in the foreword to Jo Saxton’s book The Dream of You: Continue reading “who am I?”
Today was a normal day. I woke to our typical morning hustle for a family of six. I was looking forward to going to my Wednesday morning Bible study. Then the well-intentioned texts started. Family and friends that recall this very day three years ago. The gut wrenching day that I gave birth to our still-born 24-week-old son, Bradley Quinn…. Continue reading “i’m fine”
We live in a truly blessed time. There is no limit to the number of resources available for us to learn more about God, each other and get encouragement. Sometimes I find myself drowning in blogs, podcasts and books. But really, that is more of a blessing than a curse.
Here are some of my favorite podcasts, apps and blogs. I hope you find something you like in this list. Continue reading “do you need encouragement?”
It’s one thing that I as an adult and follower of Christ would come up against people that did not agree with my beliefs or who would give backlash about the way I am living my life.
But, when it’s my child facing this… it brings out the mama bear.
And rightfully so, I want to protect her.
My old self would have jumped on board to bring down this other person attacking my child but really what would that do but cause emotional chaos and a war of words. Continue reading “what love can do”
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10
I am sensitive. Every part of me is sensitive, so when it comes to cheap earrings, my ear lobes are no different. I struggle to find the right kind of metal that will play nice with my ears. Continue reading “the lost earring”
It is Valentine’s Day, so it seems appropriate to talk about love. We love so many things; that cute puppy video on Facebook, dark chocolate, and the new sweater I just got. I also love my family. But, I am talking about real love. The kind we find in the Bible. Continue reading “love”
Many times people have commented on how different each of my daughters looks from one another. In the past, I felt embarrassed, shame and even guilt as I began to answer, “they have different dads.” I even anticipated the look of judgement on their faces as I would think: “Yep, they are totally thinking I am that girl who seeks after men for pleasure.” Continue reading “take it to God”