joy and wisdom

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For several weeks, James 1:2-3 has been my touch stone. I am not really sure why. I felt led to read James, and once I started, it was as though I just couldn’t get past those verses.

In my day job, I often take messages or concepts and try to break them down into the essential elements. So, I used that technique when I looked at these verses.

Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. James 1:2

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“I find it hard to confess that I was emotionally wounded. Because you might question my faith.”

When I read this sentence, I felt a deep hurt. For years I have tried not to speak about the loneliness, numbness and detachment I feel. I am a Christian. I love Jesus. I have seen God work in my life; answer prayers, heal, open doors. I am extraordinarily blessed. I know this.

But it doesn’t change how I feel. How life causes me to feel. But I often fear that if I speak my complete inner truth to anyone but God, people will not understand. Continue reading

the comparison trap


We live in a high-pressure world. Instagram selfies, Snapchat filters, photo shop – voices from every direction are telling us that we need to look a certain way or have a certain level of education, job, marriage, a certain type of parent or have so much money to have any sort of value. I can say with 100% confidence that no matter who you are or what stage of life you are in that every single woman alive falls subject to this battle. The thing is, if you don’t recognize your intrinsic value given to you by your Creator without these things, you sure as heck won’t with them.

We also need to keep in mind that we only see what others put out for us to see. We have no concept of the whole picture. We don’t see that the happy couple in the picture just had an epic fight. We don’ t see that the skinny girl with the thigh gap has battled an eating disorder and just wants to be free. We don’t see that woman got fired 4 times before she got her “dream job”. We don’t see that mom was just locked in the bathroom crying hysterically. We  don’t see behind the selfie to the girl who had a horrible home life and just needs some affirmation from somewhere. We can’t make assumptions and compare our lives to everyone else’s “highlight reel”. Continue reading “the comparison trap”

treasures of the heart

For where your treasure is,there your heart will be also

My nana’s name was Mary Elizabeth Kelley but she preferred to be called Betty.  She was a single mother of three children.  She had 2 boys (who were only 1 year apart from each other) and a little girl.

She was not a single mother by choice.  My grandfather had passed away from health issues created by the war just 6 weeks before my mom was due to be born in 1952.  This put my nana into the hardest point of her life.  She was to raise 3 children all by herself and on one income.  Continue reading “treasures of the heart”

a new start


Throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.

Ephesians 4:22-24

There are several times throughout the year when it feels like a natural clean slate. Of course January 1st. Also, for some is the day after the Super Bowl. For me, the one that seems so natural and so necessary is Easter. Continue reading “a new start”

do you need encouragement?

computer and phone

We live in a truly blessed time. There is no limit to the number of resources available for us to learn more about God, each other and get encouragement. Sometimes I find myself drowning in blogs, podcasts and books. But really, that is more of a blessing than a curse.

Here are some of my favorite podcasts, apps and blogs. I hope you find something you like in this list. Continue reading “do you need encouragement?”

what love can do

person hugging the horizon

It’s one thing that I as an adult and follower of Christ would come up against people that did not agree with my beliefs or who would give backlash about the way I am living my life.

But, when it’s my child facing this… it brings out the mama bear.

And rightfully so, I want to protect her.

My old self would have jumped on board to bring down this other person attacking my child but really what would that do but cause emotional chaos and a war of words. Continue reading “what love can do”